20 SA Women Share Their Vat ‘n Sit EXperiences and whether they would do it again or not in a series of confessions below!
1. I won’t do it! They’ll marry someone else behind your back while you are there doing everything for them.
2.It’s good to practice what it’d be like to live with your significant other as you have to really study them because living with someone is quite more than what meets the eye, but vakasha uhambe! For as long as theres no ring on that finger
3. I personally see nothing wrong with, from experience I’ve stayed with my girlfriend for a year and some months. It was fun I’d cook for her, make her feel special. Yhoo ha.a guys umntu wam makabese cakwam mna
4.I personally think it’s “selling yourself cheap” doing everything for a man who you’re not married to. Wifely duties should be performed by wives. Suvuma ukubayi Domestic worker.
5.Vat n sit not good. Most guys tend to relax and get very comfortable and not do whats right to marry you.
6.It does not work for everyone and for me you get to know a person better than a person visiting for a weeknd but intentions also should be pure
7.Totally against it I bealive in “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”
8.Fire to cohabitation andinolunga uba ngu Tryphina kaloku if you like then you should put a ring on it period.
9.Mna andinangxaki nayo if sendibona ifuture emntwini wam ndithi indinika ixesha lomazi and lawae bekumele yenziwa for 6 months ufunda lomntu right if awukho ready then ungamfunela eyakhe indawo.
10.A single weekend is enough for me to be with somebody’s son …I really can’t stand a man for long…maybe I would compromise in marriage not cohabiting… Mark me absent
11.And the thought of being a wife should not mean that uzanyuka usehla endlin, theres no wife nor husband expertise, I did vat n sat for 3 years and after that we got.married because we saw fit that we can make it official and I doubt there will be any divorce in situation like that because ningena seniyi practisile into yomtshato than uyokothuka sowuphakath, MY OPINION AND EXPERIENCE
12.I actually wanna try it out very soon…I wanna see if we can handle each other under the same roof all day everyday,because soon we are taking our relationship to next level so I must know exactly what I’m getting myself into.But the comments in here are scaring me
13.Hayi guys… I think this thing of cohabiting depends on the person’s intentions nje…. What works for ur relationship might not work for other relationship… As for me our relationship is just moving too fast. We’ve been dating for 5 months and ever since that we cant go a day with seeing each other, we ended up staying together and guy is already doing the right thing…apparently he was in a relationship previously for 10 years but never got married. It just depends if the person wants to marry u or not… There is no manual for relay
14.I actually wanna try it out very soon…I wanna see if we can handle each other under the same roof all day everyday,because soon we are taking our relationship to next level so I must know exactly what I’m getting myself into.But the comments in here are scaring me
15.So I live with my guy we have a 2 year old daughter together asishadanga, nguye obhadalela umtana e creche athenge I grocery endlin nokudla kwemtana pampers and everything necosmetic yam phinde angnike nemali every month for my hair and I’m still studying this is my last year doing Fanancial management 🤷♀️🤔Does that mean I’m also cheap
16.Thats it there marriage without a wedding it’s a no for me
17.I was not against it, I was actually practicing it ,until guy showed me flames…I’m not doing that shit anymore, I learned the hard and very painful way
18.If we doing it to split rent then ku right kum. Hay rent iyabiza shame
19.I’m not against it because some people don’t do it because abana self love, self respect, boundaries or are selling themselves cheap. Abanye Abantu are forced by circumstances, some people find peace, comfort and love from their partners. Abanye Abantu are running away from their toxic homes abekho happy emakhayeni wabo. Not wonke umntu ohlalisanayo wohlulwa kuziphatha or wohlulwa kukulinda. It also depends on what are your partners intentions about you. I know alot of people abaqala ngoku hlalisana and now are happily married
20.I believe that you cannot throw yourself into a marriege while you do not know all the characters of a person and i do agree that some people take advantage of that but through van n set you get to know and understand that person.