I am 26 year old women. I met this 31 year old guy in September. We both had kids from previous relationship. He has two and I have one. I love him and he says he loves me but the is something bothering me about him. Every time we had to meet with him I had to go to his place. He only ask me to go to his place during the week and we both knock off at work 16:30 and we will probably arrive after five or six. He once asked me to go with him but he left me in town and said I must catch a taxi myself and go there alone, he never wants me to take taxi with him. He always wants us to go separately. He would say I must start at home. This really bothered me and I asked him and he said he wanted me to prepare for my child and I told him that my mom was there. To cut matters shot. This past satarday we both went to work and were suppose to go to his place together but he left me again and I waited for him for about 3hour and I went to his work place he was gone. I was really upset and angry when I got home, I sent him a sms and he called me saying his phone had a problem but I know that he was lying. Sunday he called me and when I heard voice of his children in back I ask if he had spent weekend with his family and he denied it. I don’t have problem with him spending time with his family because I also have a child and I love a guy who loves and respect his children and their mother. Why would he lie about that, another thing he told that he broke up with mother of the children but he doesn’t want her to know that he is in a relationship, when I asked why, he said he is trying to protect me. Well only a fool will believe that, I told him and he brushed it off. Now I am not even sure if calling this a relationship or he is using me to get over her. Last two days I went to his place he was drunk, I don’t remember spending time with him, while he was sober. So when he is drunk, he does the talking and whenever I try to say something he changes it and made it to be about himself. I would say something but it falls to deaf ears. I have never been lucky with men; I know at times it feels like I’m in relationship for wrong reason. I want to make it work but I don’t wanna fool myself by thinking he loves but him only playing sick games. How do I know that he is really committed? He says he is and that he loves me hence he always call in the midnight to assure me that he live alone and the is no one in his life. I want to believe him but im scared that I might set my heart for break up again.
